> Larger Family Life - A Large Family Blog: November 2011

Wednesday, 30 November 2011

Two year olds don't need a formal education to fix Broken Britain. They need a family.

During his Autumn Statement yesterday, George Osborne announced that around 40% of two year olds would be able to receive 15 hours of free nursery education per week in order to help their parents get back to work.

The government plans to increase funding to £380 million a year in order to entitle approximately 260,000 more two year olds from the poorest families to these places.

Addressing the Commons, Osborne said, "We can double the number of children who can receive this free nursery care - 260,000 children from the most disadvantaged families will get this support in early years. This is how you genuinely lift children out of poverty."

Call me a cynic but when I heard this I thought, "What rot!"

Two year olds do not need any kind of formal education at all. For the government to claim that they are doing the children a favour by taking them away from their parents at a young age for their own future good is, quite frankly, codswallop.

This is nothing about the best interests of a disadvantaged two year old. Ian Duncan Smith has said, "A child’s life development score at just 22 months can serve as an accurate predictor of educational outcomes at 26 years."

Did he mean that a child's way of thinking can be more easily manipulated the younger they are?

The sooner the child is removed from within the family unit and placed in a state controlled setting, where what and how they learn is dictated to by the government, the more influence over them the state will have. The most disadvantaged are the easiest to get on side. Once the culture of dependence has been created, the government has them where they need them to be and has full control. The benefits system in this country has created a culture where it pays more for someone not to work than to be in employment. This suits the powers that be because if they are providing your means of living, your home and your money, you are going to give them your vote. You won't bite the hand that feeds you, after all.

Like I said, call me a cynic.

Removing children from the care of their parents, from the environment of the family home and a main, sole carer with whom they have an emotional attachment in order to provide a state controlled, formal education is not going to fix the problems that a disadvantaged child is likely to face in the future.

The claims that these free places will be helping the most disadvantaged don't have me convinced. If these children's parents are failing to talk to or read with their children, or teach the the most basic of things such as recognising their own names, or shapes or colours, then these parents are unlikely to become pillars of the working world.  Those with poor parenting skills would benefit more from hands on parenting classes and re-education themselves, after all, they are the parents for the rest of the child's life - not just during term times.

Ministers claim that mothers cannot afford not to work.  These plans will not change the mindset of these parents. If they do not have the motivation to find employment, and if they do not have a work ethic instilled already, having already been caught up in the benefits trap and finding that it is better not to work than to be employed, then an extra few hours of free childcare for them will not make a jot of difference.

If the government was genuinely concerned about the need for childcare for working parents, they should be providing these places to the parents already working yet having their hard earned wages eaten up by childcare costs, finally proving to the country that work does pay.

If the government were truly concerned about bringing children out of poverty and helping the most disadvantaged children they need to break the cycle.  They need to stop the benefits culture. They need to stop it being a lifestyle choice rather than the safety net it is supposed to be by making work pay.  They need to stop making a benefits lifestyle so attractive to have. This is how to prevent another generation from falling into the trap of a lifetime of handouts.  But they won't.

Young children in disadvantaged families do not need to be taken from their parents and placed into an environment of formal education to improve their lives.  If there is such concern about how little the parent is doing to encourage raising their child to have learnt the most basic of things, it would be better to provide parent/child classes for them together.  The two year old gets to remain with their sole caregiver who in turn is themself being taught how best to educate and support their child. How about providing parenting support to these families rather than dividing them even more?

Why doesn't the government do more to make it possible for one of a child's parents, their emotional link, to be their constant carer during their formative years?  The family unit is being destroyed, eroded little by little with each of these government pledges which are trumpeted behind the mask of "helping" but with the purpose of gaining more control over individuals from a younger and younger age.

You want to fix Broken Britain?

Help families to be families again.


Stop trying to tear mothers who want to raise their own children themselves away from them.  Yes, some mums do want to work outside of the home (so help these ones out with the free education places, won't you?). There are other mums who would rather be raising their children themselves but needing to hand them over to somebody else to care for them while they try to earn enough for their family simply to live.

Why is there no encouragement any more for mums to stay at home to raise their own children?  Why are childcare/nursery places/daycare centres always pushed to the forefront of any election campaign, with everyone else looking after everybody else's children, yet nobody has placed any importance on the value of the family unit and made it possible for us to be parents to our own?

Why can't the minimum wage be set higher enabling one earning partner to support their family more easily, as they should be able to?

Why can't the costs of utilities be more controlled?  The spiralling costs of electricity and gas are hitting families yet the companies are reporting stomach churning profits.

Why are we paying such high prices for fuel?  If the VAT and fuel duty were deducted from the current price of fuel, a litre of unleaded would drop from a pump price of 132.7 pence to 52.63 pence per litre.

House prices have rocketed out of control. Why can't they be reined in or salaries risen to reflect the rising costs of everything else.

Yeah, right... silly me.

No wonder families are falling apart.  It is too difficult for them.  How has something so fundamentally important to the strong structure of society become so meaningless and insignificant?  Why is it so necessary to take children away from the family unit rather than to encourage the unit to grow and strengthen?

The one thing that needs to be nurtured which can help to fix Broken Britain is being damaged beyond belief.

The Family is at risk.  We need it back.

Now.


 
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Tuesday, 29 November 2011

A conversation with my daughter

My daughter and I were having a chat.

We talked about a heap of things.

Everything from what was for dinner that evening to plans and hopes for the future .

Then the conversation turned to hairstyles.

She told me, "Mum, I really want to do something different with it.  It's just so... boring!""

"It's not boring at all.  It's beautiful!" I replied.

"I think it's time for a change," she said.  "I need to express my individuality, you know!"

"Well, maybe a different band or hair decoration?" I suggested.  "Or what about wearing it this way?"

She looked at me.

"Hmm, that's not quite what I was thinking of."

We went to bed and I thought nothing more of our conversation.

Imagine my shock the following morning when she came downstairs with her hair like this...


Mohican Anna


No, Anna, I do not care that all the cool six week olds are wearing their hair like this, you are not having a mohican and that's final!

*Sigh*

Kids, eh?


Picture credit

 
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Monday, 28 November 2011

It's official! Large families are good for you!

Scientists from the University of California, San Diego, said that higher levels of pregnancy hormones may have lasting effects on the blood vessels, decreasing the risk of dying from cardiovascular disease compared to women who have never had a baby.

Sounds good to me!

You can read more on their findings on how having a big family is good for you here.


 
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"Free Skinny Me!" - Week 3

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After last week's terrible result I was left feeling a little disheartened.  I really do want to lose this weight yet to have hit such a stumbling block so early on in the quest has made me feel really pessimistic about continuing.

This didn't help when I ended up tracking barely anything at all last week.  I know that the problem there is that I don't track as I go, tending to go back in the evening or the next morning to update.  The issue is that the Weight Watchers tracker does not save the information if you go back and complete it the following day.  Is this just an issue with my computer or does this affect everybody?  I then get frustrated at having spent time adding a days worth of foods, the info for which cannot be saved to the system and so tracking doesn't work anyway.  This then leaves me feeling unhappy about paying out my money for something I am not using.

Rather than pointing everything and making different meals for myself to everyone else in the family, which isn't always cost effective to do given that we have a budget we need to try and stick to, I am sticking to having a bowl of fruit for breakfast and a huge salad for lunch. I will then eat anything the rest of the family are having for dinner without any guilt or worry, knowing that most of my points have remained intact.

Now the days are getting colder I am settling down with a mug of low calorie hot chocolate once the children have gone to bed.  I have even added some low fat squirty cream to the top as a treat.

Anyway, to summarise, I managed to lose the weight I gained last week plus an extra half a pound so I'm happier!  I have now lost a huge 2lbs from my original starting weight.  Ok, so not fantastic considering I am on week three now but I would rather be 2lbs under my starting weight than half a pound above it, so I'll take the successes where I can.

Here are my results:

Week 3's result: Lost 4½lbs

Current weight: 12st 6lbs (174lbs)

Mini goal: To lose 19lbs by week 18

Starting weight: 12st 8lbs

Goal weight: 8st 11lbs (123lbs)

Total to lose: 51lbs

Total lost to date: 2lbs

Are any of you joining in?  How are you doing?

If you are trying to lose weight too why not join the quest to "Free Skinny Me!"? You don't need to be following Weight Watchers to do so and your weigh in day doesn't have to be a Monday. Just grab the button at the top of this post or in the right sidebar of this blog (the code to copy and paste on your blog is in the text box under the button) and put it on your blog, then come back each Monday to report each week's weigh in result. You can also write a post on your own blog and leave a link back to it in the comments below so we can visit and leave a message of encouragement or support. You can choose how much or little info to disclose.

You can follow my quest to "Free Skinny Me!" by subscribing to a full feed in your reader.  You can also chat with me throughout the week on Twitter  (click here or search for the handle "@largerfamily" and let me know if you are doing the quest so I can follow you back) and become a Facebook friend too.   Don't forget that we now have our very own Healthy Living board in our new LFL Family Forums.


 
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Sunday, 27 November 2011

Banana and Raisin Breakfast Muffins

Banana and Raisin Breakfast Muffins are a great recipe idea for toddlers


Oliver, at two years old, has plenty to be getting on with.  Eating and mealtimes just get in the way of his busy life.  He tends to graze at the moment, preferring to walk about with a bunch of grapes or a handful of cherry tomatoes to chomp on, rather than sitting at the table for any length of time.

He isn't a big eater at breakfast time nor lunch times and though he doesn't look any worse for wear, my mother instinct still feels like I have to fool him into eating something I feel is substantial enough to give him a good start to his day.  I wanted a healthy breakfast recipe.  This is where breakfast muffins come into play.

Breakfast muffins contain the good ingredients that reassure me that my toddler is getting enough nourishment and everything he needs to get his day off to a good start.  Breakfast muffins are also a great option for fussy toddlers and picky eaters.   They are a healthy breakfast recipe for toddlers who, like Oliver, are too busy to sit still and he is happy because he just think's he's eating a cake!

Don't be fooled by their name though because breakfast muffins are certainly not just for breakfast!

Banana and Raisin Breakfast Muffins
(makes 36)

Ingredients:

10oz plain flour
10oz porridge oats
2 tbsp baking powder
8oz light brown soft sugar
4oz raisins
4 bananas
20fl oz milk
8fl oz sunflower oil
4 eggs

Method:

Pre-heat the oven to 200°C/400°F/Gas Mark 6.

Grease muffin tray or line with cases.

Sift plain flour into a large bowl with baking powder.  Add porridge oats and sugar and stir well.

Mash bananas well, then add to dry food mixture along with the raisins.

In a separate bowl whisk together the milk, sunflower oil and eggs.  Pour into the dry food mixture and mix.

Fill the muffin cases almost full with the mixture.  Bake in oven for approximately 20 minutes or until muffins are risen and lightly browned on top.

The muffins can be stored in an airtight container and can be warmed up by heating in the oven for 5 minutes at 150°C/300°F/Gas Mark 2.


 
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Saturday, 26 November 2011

Why I get up at 5am


I have written before about how I strongly recommend waking up earlier than everybody else when you have a family to look after.  I recommend it even more so after the events of this week.

I have been waking up at 5am for almost four years now.  That is every single day, with weekends included.  I wasn't always an early riser and it took some training to get used to doing it but I quickly realised that I far preferred the benefits that it brought.

Getting up before everybody else gives me the opportunity to "get my head straight".  I can prepare myself, physically and mentally, for the day ahead.  I can breakfast and have a coffee or two in peace.  I can get the chores started and get ahead of my work and I can get myself dressed and ready before the small people start demanding my time and attention.  I can deal with my online banking, my emails and I can write up a blog post or two.  I like having the quiet time before the busyness of the day begins.

If I can get myself that one hour it makes a lot of difference to my whole day.  This was brought home to me this week when I did the unthinkable and overslept.  I hardly ever oversleep and if I do it is rarely by more than ten minutes.  With a couple of babies to get up for during the night sometimes the tiredness tends to kick in.  This week it gave me a real good kicking and I ended up oversleeping not once but twice.  Furthermore,  it wasn't by minutes but by over an hour each time!

By the time I awoke, the children were already awake and demanding my attention.  The chores that would normally be done and out of the way were left so that I could deal with the kids.  I hadn't had a coffee, hadn't had breakfast and hadn't even had time to run a brush through my hair, let alone get myself dressed and made up for the day.

As the morning passed by and I tried to play catch-up on the things I would normally have dealt with I got more and more stressed and short-tempered.  Before I knew it lunch time had arrived and I still hadn't caught up on everything.  I hadn't eaten all morning, not having had the chance to eat breakfast after all.  The laundry was behind, schooling started later and I was trying frantically to prepare materials for lessons that I didn't get the chance to do already.  The hoovering and dusting wasn't done and every crumb on the carpet screamed at me.  The result?  I was rushing around, maligning myself and getting in a fouler mood as the day went on.

I hadn't realised until this week just how much having this time in my day means to me.  I hadn't realised until now just how much the benefits far outweighed anything that the extra few minutes of sleep could give.  I appreciate far more the things I can do, the amount I can achieve and the peace of mind it gives me when I am firm with myself and my early morning starts, and this in turn goes a long way to improving my mood for the rest of the day.  And the rest of the family appreciates that!

I often hear from other mums who say they wish they could do that, or have thought about trying it but then finish with, "... but I'm really not a morning person".

You don't have to be a morning person.

You just have to be firm with yourself for two weeks.

Don't look at me that way. 

Two weeks.

That is all.

Try getting up before anyone else in the house for just two weeks and work out your own little routine.  Make the most of having your morning coffee in peace and note how many chores you can get done in that time, without having to rush and without having the distraction of little ones under your feet.  See if it makes any difference to your mood (once you've got going and stopped cursing my name under your breath).  Try it out and see if it gives you a head start to your day, allowing you to get on top of things before they get on top of you.

I much prefer my 5am starts to a day of rushing about, getting an already stressed me into a worse mood as the day progresses.

I am willing to bet you will notice the benefits too.

Let me know if you try it.


 
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Friday, 25 November 2011

Digital scrapbooking - plus an offer and a giveaway

There are two craft activities I've always wanted to try out.

The first is crocheting as I have always fancied wrapping up in a blanket made of lots of granny squares.

The second is scrapbooking as it is something that seems to have come a long way since the little girl version of me snipped magazine and newspaper cuttings of Charles' and Diana's wedding many years ago.

I recently had the opportunity to try out the "My Memories Suite Digital Scrapbooking Software"  which is available on disc or as a download which is fantastic if you are a customer from outside the US.  The software is available worldwide to both Mac and PC users.

"My Memories" allows you to create beautiful digital scrapbooks in minutes using their professionally designed templates.  If you are feeling confident you can create your own designs from scratch yourself using over 1,500 papers and 1,000 elements and more than thirty album templates.  The choice is amazing!  You can even add music, narration, video or add the internet to your creations and share them through multimedia or print.

"My Memories" also offers a large selection of free digital scrapbooking downloads to enable you to increase your design kit for absolutely nothing.  If you are anything like me you'll want to download them all!  If you are stuck there is a scrapbooking forum where you can ask for help from other scrapbookers new and old, and there is also the "My Memories Blog" where you can keep up to date with the latest news and offers.  There are also scrapbooking tutorials on the site and a Weekly Challenge where you can get ideas, show off your work and win a prize!

Now, I have often seen the most beautiful ideas and designs but seem to be somewhat challenged in the scrapbooking creativity department myself.  I still managed to come up with this though...



My first ever digital scrapbook page using the My Memories Suite software


So it's not fantastic or the best design ever.  In fact it's very basic but it was great fun to do and I think I have potential, no?  I do know that I will be downloading some scrapbooking freebies and practising my skills.  I might even set a challenge, what do you think?

"My Memories Suite" are offering my readers $10 off the cost of the "My Memories Digital Scrapbooking Software" plus a $10 coupon for the My Memories store.

To take advantage of the offer simply add the software to your basket and enter the following code during the checkout process: STMMMS69859.  Remember, you can download the software immediately from the site so you can take advantage of this offer no matter where you are in the world.

"My Memories Suite" have also offered one of my readers the chance to win a copy of their "My Memories Suite Digital Scrapbooking Software" worth $39.97, and because it is available as a download I can open this giveaway to anybody, anywhere!

To enter, visit the My Memories website and then come back and leave a comment telling me which of their free digital scrapbooking kits you would download first.


For extra entries you can leave a separate comment below once you have done any of the following:


Bonus entry 1:  Follow Larger Family Life (@largerfamily) and My Memories Suite (@MyMemoriesSuite) on Twitter and tweet about this competition with a link back to this post. Leave a comment below to say you have done so below.


Bonus entry 2:  Like Larger Family Life and My Memories Suite on Facebook.  Leave a separate comment below to say you have done so.


Bonus entry 3: Follow the Larger Family Life and My Memories Suite blogs by clicking on the "Google Friend Connect" button.  Leave a comment below to say you have done so.


The giveaway will close on Thursday, 1st December at midnight GMT.  Remember, anyone, anywhere can enter to win.


Good luck!


The giveaway is now closed and the winner is.... commenter number 7! Congratulations, Ness! Email me at family@largerfamilylife.com to arrange your prize.


 
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Thursday, 24 November 2011

Musical, magical, girly fun

Lite Sprites


When I was a little girl I had a Tiny Tears doll whose eyelashes had been cut by someone.  Oh, ok, it was me.  I loved my doll, despite her lack of lashes... or clothes.  She didn't talk or cry or do anything else.  She had a tough old body and one eye stayed open when the other shut.  

I did love her. 

I'd have loved Lite Sprites more though.

Lite Sprites (rrp: £14.99) from WowWee are the five magical, colourful, fairy-type Sprites who live in Lite Topia.  Prisma, Astra, Meadow and Brooke look after the water, air and sky by sharing and transferring each of their seven colours with the help of the Lite Wand.  Look out for Bleak though, who tries to steal their colours!

The Lite Sprites come with their own pods to sleep in and you can buy four different Deluxe Playsets (rrp. £19.99) each with their own special sounds and colourful displays.  At the centre of Lite Topia is the Tree of Life (rrp. £39.99) where the Lite Sprites sit in their pods which hang from the tree and then spin around in a musical, magical display of colours.

Meet my children's cousin, Amy.  Well, actually she's something like a first cousin something or other removed or something.  I don't know.  It confuses me.  We'll stick to cousin.  It's easier that way.  

Anyway, meet Amy.  She was the lucky recipient of the Lite Sprites because Cait was too old (and boy, was she upset about that!) and the twins were too young to play with them.  Actually, on second thoughts, Cait would have loved it.  Anyway, back to Amy....




See the concentration on her face?  And she looks like she's concentrating so hard she's not talking.  (That would be reason enough to buy your child Lite Sprites if they chat anywhere near as much as the children in our family tend to).

Amy loved it.  

In fact her mum, Karen sent back such thorough feedback that rather than put it in my own words I thought I would just share it with you as she gave it.  Here it is:

Karen's Lite Sprite Review:

"Pros
Amy was instantly attracted to pretty girly packaging
Easy to put together
Good quality chunky bright and colourful plastic pieces
The whole set is attractive, the Sprites are pretty, the lights look good (particularly in the dark) and the wand makes 'magical' noises
Kept Amy's attention for an hour and half (had to stop playing with it to have dinner!) and she wanted to play with it immediately after dinner and again before school this morning.
She loved the way you can transfer light colours between wand, 'The Tree of Lite' and Sprites.
It has a sleep mode and shut off mode if toy is not played with for saving battery power.
Contemplated putting it in her bedroom to use as a night light - particularly as it switches itself off.
Cons
It took about 30 mins to get through all the packaging, 8 AAA batteries and a tiny philips screwdriver to get going.
8 AAA batteries required - 4 for wand, 4 for house (just as well there is a battery saving sleep/shut off mode!!)
Wand is a little confusing even after reading instructions - it has a colour library and spells - I think an adult would def need to explain it to a child (or am I just stupid?) 
Other than the above cant find anything negative to say about it.
A lovely, girly toy - thank you xx"
So there you go.  A lovely, girly toy which is musical, colourful and fun.  What more could a girl want?

(Thank you to WowWee for sending us the Lite Sprites to enjoy).


 
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Wednesday, 23 November 2011

Slow Cooker Boeuf Bourguignon

Slow Cooker Boeuf Bourguignon


Mike has recently become quite a dab hand in the kitchen.  This was his first attempt at this dish and it was so lovely there was no way of not having a second helping.  This is the ideal dish to warm you up in the winter, especially when teamed up with a helping of Potatoes Boulangeres.

Boeuf Bourguignon
(Serves 8)


Ingredients:


2lbs diced beef
350g celery
4 large carrots
1 large onion
2 cloves garlic
150g mushrooms
3tbsp olive oil
Bottle red wine (preferably Burgundy but any red will do)
600ml beef stock
4tbsp cornflour
Salt and pepper to season

Method:

Put olive oil in the bottom of your slow cooker or casserole dish.

Chop onions, garlic, celery, carrots and mushrooms and place in bottom of dish.

Coat the diced beef in flour and put in a pan to brown.  Once browned add to casserole.

Pour in red wine.

Whisk cornflour into beef stock to thicken then add to casserole.

Season then cook on low in the slow cooker or in a lidded casserole dish in the oven for at least seven hours.

Enjoy!


 
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